Hosting Thanksgiving can seem daunting, but with some thoughtful planning and preparation, you can create a memorable and stress-free holiday experience. From organizing the meal to setting the table and keeping guests entertained, here’s a guide to help you host a successful Thanksgiving or Friendsgiving gathering.
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1. Embrace Catering and Premade Items
One of the easiest ways to reduce stress during Thanksgiving is by utilizing catering or premade items from the grocery store. There’s no need to cook everything from scratch, especially with the high-quality, pre-prepared dishes available these days. Whether it’s a fully cooked turkey or side dishes like stuffing and mashed potatoes, opting for these can save you valuable time. You can always add your own flair by garnishing or mixing in a homemade touch, but don’t shy away from help where it’s available. I used contigo catering here in Austin!
2. Plan and Schedule Ahead
To ensure a smooth day, it’s crucial to create a detailed schedule for both the day before and the day of the event. I even allocated 2-3 to do list items for about a week leading up to the event, just to take even more pressure off my plate the day of. Write down every task on your to-do list, from setting the table to preparing dishes, and assign a specific time to complete them. This will help you stay on track and ensure nothing is overlooked. For instance, you may want to prep your vegetables or desserts a day in advance, and schedule specific times to begin cooking the turkey and other dishes on the big day.
3. Extra Seating and Table Arrangements
If you’re hosting a large crowd, you might need more seating than you have on hand. Consider purchasing inexpensive fold-up tables or borrowing them from a neighbor. Local marketplaces are also a great place to find affordable second-hand options. I’ve used Facebook marketplace to purchase inexpensive used tables, or Nextdoor to borrow from neighbors. Ensure you have enough space for everyone to comfortably gather around the table and share in the meal.
4. Order the Turkey in Advance
Thanksgiving dinner revolves around the turkey, so be sure to order it well in advance to avoid any last-minute issues. Whether you’re cooking it yourself or ordering a pre-cooked bird, making sure it’s secured early will save you from holiday stress. Many grocery stores and specialty shops even offer fully cooked turkeys or turkey breasts, which can be a lifesaver for larger gatherings. I love Texas Honey Ham here in Austin!
5. Consider Hiring a Cleaning Service
While not a necessity, hiring a cleaning service before or after your event can be a game-changer. If you have a particularly large group or a busy schedule, outsourcing this task can free up time and mental energy. Alternatively, you can tackle cleaning tasks gradually leading up to Thanksgiving day so you aren’t overwhelmed at the last minute.
6. Send Out Invitations Early
Avoid the confusion of coordinating with guests by sending out invitations well in advance. An e-vite or detailed email is an efficient way to communicate the details of the event, including the time, location, and any other specifics you want to share. Not only does this prevent repetitive questions from your guests, but it also sets clear expectations about the flow of the day, including arrival time and when dinner will be served.
7. Set Clear Boundaries for Conversations
Thanksgiving is a time for family and friends to come together, but it’s also a gathering where off-topic or controversial conversations can arise. If there are certain topics you want to avoid, especially during dinner, establish clear boundaries ahead of time. This helps ensure the atmosphere remains positive, and everyone can enjoy themselves.
8. Delegate Dishes to Guests
If your guests are willing, assign specific dishes for them to bring. This not only helps share the workload but ensures you have a well-rounded meal. You can create a sign-up sheet with options like appetizers, sides, desserts, or even drinks. That way, you know what’s coming, and it reduces the pressure on you to prepare everything. Consider a shared note!
9. Table Decorations and Ambiance
Table decor can elevate the holiday experience, making the meal feel even more special. Whether you want something elegant or simple, places like World Market, Dollar Tree, and Amazon offer affordable options. Consider using cute table centerpieces, autumnal-themed napkins, and even name cards for a personalized touch. If you’re hosting Friendsgiving, disposable plates are convenient, but for Thanksgiving, nicer plates may add to the occasion.
10. Plan for an Easy Cleanup
Nobody wants to spend hours cleaning up after Thanksgiving dinner. Simplify the process by using disposable plates and utensils if appropriate for the gathering. Have trash bags ready and encourage guests to help by clearing their plates. If you’re using nicer dishes, enlist a few family members to help with washing up.
11. Serve with Style
Make sure you have all the essentials for serving your meal. Consider using warming dishes or heated mats to keep food at the right temperature throughout dinner. Matching serving utensils and cute pitchers for drinks like iced tea or lemonade can add a cohesive feel. Don’t forget to have a wine decanter and extra ice on hand to keep beverages flowing. A Pebble ice maker or ice trays can come in handy for guests who prefer chilled drinks.
12. Entertainment for the Day
Thanksgiving is not just about the food — it’s also about spending quality time with loved ones. Incorporate fun games and activities to keep everyone entertained. Scratch-off cards, bingo, or a gratitude game are all great ways to engage guests. I love the Thanksgiving poppers specifically! You could even set up a movie night post-dinner, complete with Christmas movies to kick off the holiday season. Alternatively, plan activities for the following day, like Christmas tree decorating or checking out festive events in your city.
13. Don’t Forget the Music
A well-curated playlist is essential to set the mood. Whether you prefer background jazz, classic Thanksgiving tunes, or a mix of holiday favorites, music can create the perfect ambiance for your gathering. Consider creating a playlist ahead of time to ensure there are no awkward silences throughout the evening.
14. Final Touches
Incorporate personal touches like handwritten name cards or themed decor to make your guests feel special. For Friendsgiving, consider setting up a photo booth with fun props so everyone can take home a memory of the day. Small details like these can make a big impact and leave a lasting impression on your guests.
Conclusion
Hosting Thanksgiving or Friendsgiving doesn’t have to be overwhelming. By planning ahead, delegating tasks, and embracing a few shortcuts, you can create a memorable event that everyone enjoys. From catering to decor to entertainment, these tips will help you organize and host a Thanksgiving that’s as enjoyable for you as it is for your guests.
