Hosting Thanksgiving can seem daunting, but with some thoughtful planning and preparation, you can create a memorable and stress-free holiday experience. From organizing the meal to setting the table and keeping guests entertained, here’s a guide to help you host a successful Thanksgiving or Friendsgiving gathering.
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Your Realistic Thanksgiving Hosting Timeline
Hosting feels instantly easier when you know exactly what needs to happen and when. Here is the timeline I follow every single year after hosting five Thanksgivings in a row while working full-time and raising two young kids.
7–10 Days Before
• Finalize your menu
• Decide what you’re cooking vs. delegating vs. outsourcing
• Reserve catering items from Central Market, Contigo, Fresas or Swedish Hill
• Order your turkey or pickup slot from Texas Honey Ham
• Reserve your grocery curbside time (the good slots book up a week out)
• Borrow fold-up tables and extra chairs from neighbors via Nextdoor or Facebook groups
• Order any missing serving pieces, wine glasses, warming mats, or décor
• Drop your hosting sign-up sheet into a shared Notes app, SignupGenius or Google Doc
3–4 Days Before
• Do your big grocery run so items aren’t sold out
• Prep any pie doughs, sauces, dressings or casseroles that will hold well
• Chop veggies that can store in airtight containers
• Clean out your fridge for incoming dishes
• Do a quick tidy of main areas
• Print any recipes you’ll need on the counter
• Make your playlist and test your speaker
2 Days Before
• Light cleaning (bathrooms, entryway, kitchen surfaces)
• Prep casseroles that need to chill 24 hours
• Bake any breads or desserts that hold well overnight
• Set out serving utensils for all dishes (including guest dishes)
• Label each serving dish with sticky notes so you know exactly where everything goes
• Begin thawing the turkey if it’s not fresh (see turkey section below)
1 Day Before
• Set the table (linens, chargers, candles, napkins, name cards)
• Prep kid stations, but save actual kid table setup for morning-of
• Pick up catering items
• Pick up your pies if you ordered from a local bakery
• Finish final chopping and assemble any “day before” dishes
• Run and empty the dishwasher before bed
• Place yard greenery in water for next-day décor if using
Thanksgiving Morning
• Brew coffee and start your playlist 30 minutes before guests arrive
• Assemble the leftover breakfast bake or cinnamon rolls for the next morning
• Prep the last-minute dishes (mashed potatoes, gravy, veggies)
• Heat catering items in warming mats or at low temp to avoid oven overload
• Set up drink station with wine, beer, sparkling water and ice
• Put finishing touches on the table (napkin greenery, candles, coasters)
• Check oven temperature with a Bluetooth thermometer (ovens run off more than you think)
• Stick to your turkey schedule (below)
• Enjoy being in your home before all the movement begins
1. Embrace Catering and Premade Items
One of the easiest ways to reduce stress during Thanksgiving is by utilizing catering or premade items from the grocery store. There’s no need to cook everything from scratch, especially with the high-quality, pre-prepared dishes available these days. Whether it’s a fully cooked turkey or side dishes like stuffing and mashed potatoes, opting for these can save you valuable time. You can always add your own flair by garnishing or mixing in a homemade touch, but don’t shy away from help where it’s available. I used contigo catering here in Austin!
2. Plan and Schedule Ahead
To ensure a smooth day, it’s crucial to create a detailed schedule for both the day before and the day of the event. I even allocated 2-3 to do list items for about a week leading up to the event, just to take even more pressure off my plate the day of. Write down every task on your to-do list, from setting the table to preparing dishes, and assign a specific time to complete them. This will help you stay on track and ensure nothing is overlooked. For instance, you may want to prep your vegetables or desserts a day in advance, and schedule specific times to begin cooking the turkey and other dishes on the big day.
3. Extra Seating and Table Arrangements
If you’re hosting a large crowd, you might need more seating than you have on hand. Consider purchasing inexpensive fold-up tables or borrowing them from a neighbor. Local marketplaces are also a great place to find affordable second-hand options. I’ve used Facebook marketplace to purchase inexpensive used tables, or Nextdoor to borrow from neighbors. Ensure you have enough space for everyone to comfortably gather around the table and share in the meal.
4. Order the Turkey in Advance
Thanksgiving dinner revolves around the turkey, so be sure to order it well in advance to avoid any last-minute issues. Whether you’re cooking it yourself or ordering a pre-cooked bird, making sure it’s secured early will save you from holiday stress. Many grocery stores and specialty shops even offer fully cooked turkeys or turkey breasts, which can be a lifesaver for larger gatherings. I love Texas Honey Ham here in Austin!
My Foolproof Turkey Method (The Only One I Use)
This is the herby citrus butter turkey that has never failed me. It’s simple, flavorful and works for beginners.
3–4 Days Before
If frozen, begin thawing your turkey in the fridge.
General rule: 1 day of fridge thaw per 4–5 pounds.
2 Days Before
Dry brine or wet brine.
• Dry brine: Salt all over the turkey, including under the skin.
• Wet brine: Submerge in water with salt, peppercorns, citrus, bay leaves and herbs.
Brining = the secret to juicy turkey.
1 Day Before
Pat turkey dry.
Mix softened butter with garlic, herbs, citrus zest, salt and pepper.
Rub under the skin, on top of the skin and inside the cavity.
Stuff cavity with orange, lemon, onion and garlic.
Place uncovered in the fridge for the skin to dry.
Thanksgiving Morning
Let turkey sit at room temp 30 minutes.
Preheat oven and use a Bluetooth meat thermometer for foolproof cooking.
Roast until internal breast temp reaches 160°F, then tent with foil and rest 45–60 minutes.
(This brings final temp to 165°F without drying out.)
Hot Tips
• Use an electric carving knife for perfect slices
• A Bluetooth thermometer tells you oven ambient temp (how I learned mine was off by 50°)
• Popeyes will deep-fry your turkey if you want that style
5. Consider Hiring a Cleaning Service
While not a necessity, hiring a cleaning service before or after your event can be a game-changer. If you have a particularly large group or a busy schedule, outsourcing this task can free up time and mental energy. Alternatively, you can tackle cleaning tasks gradually leading up to Thanksgiving day so you aren’t overwhelmed at the last minute.
6. Send Out Invitations Early
Avoid the confusion of coordinating with guests by sending out invitations well in advance. An e-vite or detailed email is an efficient way to communicate the details of the event, including the time, location, and any other specifics you want to share. Not only does this prevent repetitive questions from your guests, but it also sets clear expectations about the flow of the day, including arrival time and when dinner will be served.
7. Set Clear Boundaries for Conversations
Thanksgiving is a time for family and friends to come together, but it’s also a gathering where off-topic or controversial conversations can arise. If there are certain topics you want to avoid, especially during dinner, establish clear boundaries ahead of time. This helps ensure the atmosphere remains positive, and everyone can enjoy themselves.
8. Delegate Dishes to Guests
If your guests are willing, assign specific dishes for them to bring. This not only helps share the workload but ensures you have a well-rounded meal. You can create a sign-up sheet with options like appetizers, sides, desserts, or even drinks. That way, you know what’s coming, and it reduces the pressure on you to prepare everything. Consider a shared note!
Delegation That Actually Helps You
When someone asks “What can I bring?”, do not say “Nothing!”
Give specific, easy options. Guests want to contribute.
• Use my shared hosting sign-up sheet or SignupGenius
• Assign categories: apps, sides, desserts, drinks, ice
• Tell guests store-bought is completely welcome
• Clarify if they need oven or stovetop space
• Set out spare serving utensils for guest dishes
• Label spaces on your table or counter for each item
• Let one or two people be your “cleanup crew” ahead of time so you’re not overwhelmed
9. Table Decorations and Ambiance
Table decor can elevate the holiday experience, making the meal feel even more special. Whether you want something elegant or simple, places like World Market, Dollar Tree, and Amazon offer affordable options. Consider using cute table centerpieces, autumnal-themed napkins, and even name cards for a personalized touch. If you’re hosting Friendsgiving, disposable plates are convenient, but for Thanksgiving, nicer plates may add to the occasion.
Simple and Inexpensive Decor Ideas
• Clip greenery from a bush or tree in your yard and tie around napkins with kitchen twine
• Use battery-operated candles so no one reaches across open flames
• Add a table runner, seasonal flowers or mini pumpkins for warmth
• Use cute charger plates and napkin rings for elevated but inexpensive touches
• Pre-set drink stations with wine charms or markers
• Start your playlist 30 minutes before guests arrive so the home feels inviting immediately
10. Plan for an Easy Cleanup
Nobody wants to spend hours cleaning up after Thanksgiving dinner. Simplify the process by using disposable plates and utensils if appropriate for the gathering. Have trash bags ready and encourage guests to help by clearing their plates. If you’re using nicer dishes, enlist a few family members to help with washing up.
11. Serve with Style
Make sure you have all the essentials for serving your meal. Consider using warming dishes or heated mats to keep food at the right temperature throughout dinner. Matching serving utensils and cute pitchers for drinks like iced tea or lemonade can add a cohesive feel. Don’t forget to have a wine decanter and extra ice on hand to keep beverages flowing. A Pebble ice maker or ice trays can come in handy for guests who prefer chilled drinks.
Keeping Food Warm Without Oven Chaos
• Use warming mats or warming trays for casseroles and sides
• Keep one oven rack open for incoming dishes
• If guests are bringing dishes, ask ahead if they need reheating
• Use slow cookers for mashed potatoes, gravy or stuffing
• Use an electric knife + Bluetooth thermometer for the turkey
12. Entertainment for the Day
• Thanksgiving poppers for conversation starters
• Scratch-off cards or gratitude prompts for the table
• A cozy Christmas movie for the kids after dinner
• A family walk between dinner and dessert
• My brother brings his guitar and plays music for the kids
• Keep music light: acoustic, jazz or 70s classics
• Start playlist 30 minutes before people arrive
13. Don’t Forget the Music
A well-curated playlist is essential to set the mood. Whether you prefer background jazz, classic Thanksgiving tunes, or a mix of holiday favorites, music can create the perfect ambiance for your gathering. Consider creating a playlist ahead of time to ensure there are no awkward silences throughout the evening.
14. Final Touches
Incorporate personal touches like handwritten name cards or themed decor to make your guests feel special. For Friendsgiving, consider setting up a photo booth with fun props so everyone can take home a memory of the day. Small details like these can make a big impact and leave a lasting impression on your guests.
The Day After (Keep It Simple)
• Slow morning with leftovers breakfast bake or cinnamon rolls
• Decorate the Christmas tree to keep the magic going
• Turn on a Christmas movie for kids so adults can settle or tidy
• A family walk to reset energy
• Local holiday markets or light events if you want to get out
• Carry forward family traditions (guitar playing, grandma’s green slime, recipes passed down)
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Turkey Recipe
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Conclusion
Hosting Thanksgiving or Friendsgiving doesn’t have to be overwhelming. By planning ahead, delegating tasks, and embracing a few shortcuts, you can create a memorable event that everyone enjoys. From catering to decor to entertainment, these tips will help you organize and host a Thanksgiving that’s as enjoyable for you as it is for your guests.
